This is Day 2 of my Write 31 Days series for 2017: 31 Days to an Authentic Life.
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Our eyes, the window to the soul, have the power to build or to destroy.
Recently a young man posted on social media that he is struggling with severe isolation. In addition to being neglected by friends and family, he feels invisible when out in public. He’ll walk through crowds of people and not one person will make eye contact with him, let alone offer a friendly greeting.
His story is all too familiar.
Perhaps you can relate.
It’s no secret that we live in a fast-paced world where oft times our only connection with others is through social media or our phone.
Sadly, we’ve grown comfortable with this type of connection.
It’s fast, convenient, and non-committal.
But there is a growing chasm in our souls.
Deep down we crave a truer form of connection.
The craving for genuine connection with others is an inherent desire.
We were created by God to connect with others at a more personal level.
Adam was told that “it is not good that man should be alone” (Gen 2:18) and was given Eve as his helpmeet.
The Bible is full of examples of remarkable relationships that were built on love and connection. Think of Jonathan’s heartfelt devotion to David, and Ruth’s loyal relationship to Naomi.
The Savior, our exemplar, led the way with the beautiful connection he had with his disciples.
Creating deeper connections with those around us may sound overwhelming but, fortunately, there are simple things we can do on a daily basis that will bring us one step closer to creating the relationships our soul desires.
Sometimes the simplest forms of communication can be the most powerful. Take these simple acts, for example:
A kind word
An encouraging pat on the back
A friendly smile
I relate a personal experience about this type of communication here.
When was the last time you experienced real, in-person connection with another person–the kind of connection where time seems to stand still and you feel seen, heard, and understood? When was the last time you offered that form of connection to another person?
Today’s challenge is a simple one.
Choose to look people in the eye.
- When you pass someone in the store, look them in the eye.
- When your child stops to talk to you, look them in the eye.
- When the mailman drives by with your mail, look them in the eye.
We live in a world where it’s easy to become invisible.
We can change that, beginning today.
Make an effort to look people in the eye.
BONUS POINTS: smile as you make eye contact
Before we can love someone, we must acknowledge their existence. Eye contact will do just that.
It’s fast. It’s simple. It’s powerful.
Give it a try and see how it feels. Make the effort to look people in the eye.
You’re bound to make someone’s day!
Day 2 Challenge: Make eye contact with those around you (and smile while doing so!)
Eye contact has the potential to build or destroy our relationships. In what ways has eye contact, or lack of eye contact, affected you in your life? Please share!