Open Doors
Authentic Connection,  Hospitality

The Day I Decided To Keep The Doors Open

Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me. (Rev 3:20)


Sometimes it’s difficult to keep the doors open.


“Make sure the doors remain closed.”

It’s a thought that runs through my mind often, and one I share with my children on a regular basis, especially when we’re expecting guests in our home. Some messes are best hidden behind closed doors.

At least, that’s what I used to think.

I tend to keep the front rooms of the house clean and orderly, welcoming all to see them in their state of near perfection. But the clutter, the untidiness, the disorganization of the rooms and closets in other parts of the house are best left unseen by wandering eyes, just like the areas of my life that I keep hidden from view––my weaknesses, past misgivings, current hardships––that, if ‘seen’, would surely lower people’s opinion of me, for that part of me is quite messy. I’ve always felt safer when certain things in my life are hidden away behind ‘closed doors’.

But no more.

Last spring, as I was spring cleaning my house––scrubbing, sorting, tossing––I thought of the ‘spring cleaning’ I’ve been doing in my life, as well:

  • forgiving myself and others
  • setting goals to overcome weaknesses
  • accepting my limitations for what they are
  • learning from the past but looking forward to a bright future


As I considered these things, I realized that I’ve been doing it all wrong.

I should have been keeping the doors open, for in many ways, our ‘messes’ unite us.


Open doors lead to honesty, vulnerability, and more connection.


Though the rooms in my home and the circumstances in my life are in better shape at the moment, they are far from perfect, far from ideal. However, I’ve resolved to be courageous and leave the doors open. After all, “It’s okay to let people see you in process. It’s the most honest thing we can do.” ~ Kris Camealy


Day 15 Challenge: Read the following posts to gain insight into the blessings that come from opening our doors.

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Check out this powerful post by Grace Table about opening our doors: Open Your Doors Anyway


Click HERE to read about the first time I invited a family to join us for dinner.


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  • Rachel Lee

    “Other parts of the house are best left unseen by wandering eyes, just like the areas of my life that I keep hidden from view.” I know this all too well.
    I like to keep certain parts of myself hidden from view too. Great analogy!
    Very convicting and inspiring post! Thanks for sharing,
    Blessings, friend. 🙂

  • Jessica

    I love this so much! I can relate to the areas of life you are decluttering. I have the hardest time with forgiving myself and accepting my limitations. Man those are hard. But you’re right to create authentic and loving relationships we need to show people the mess. I loved the quote you shared – “It’s okay to let people see you in process. It’s the most honest thing we can do.” ~ Kris Camealy – that’s good stuff.

  • Stephanie Naak

    What a thoughtful reminder. This is an area of my life where God has really been speaking. Imperfect people (like me) need other imperfect people because God made us for friendship, companionship, and community.

  • Melissa

    Great post! I realize I was raised to always have the doors closed, too. We weren’t supposed to let people know our lives were messy – literally and figuratively. People were only allowed to come visit if they called first with an appropriate amount of time to prepare and make the house look pristine. Having the doors open has been a continual process of allowing vulnerability into my home and my heart. God bless!

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