As a mother, I’m doing my best to help my children navigate their childhood and teen years.
I’ve found these 6 Questions, asked on a daily basis, help to keep everyone physically and emotionally safe and sound.
QUESTIONS I ASK MY CHILDREN
#1) What are you looking forward to?
Children and adults, in good times and bad, benefit from having something to look forward to on a daily basis.
It could be something big, such as a special event or activity, or something small, like watching a certain movie or eating a favorite dessert.
Finding something to look forward to moves one’s thoughts to the future, preventing thoughts from becoming stuck in the present or past. Consequently, it is a forward-thinking activity that helps to reduce feelings of anxiety, fear, and discouragement.
In addition, as you learn what your loved one is looking forward to, you’ll learn more about who they are and what in life interests them the most.
Talking about what you are looking forward to is a positively perfect way to begin each day!
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#2) Have you gone poop today?
I firmly believe that one of the top indicators of how healthy one is today, in addition to how healthy one will be in coming days, is whether or not one poops on a daily basis. In any event, it’s proven true in our family.
Miss one day of poop and say hello to a head cold, fatigue and stress, or the flu.
Missing even one day of poop is no bueno! As feces builds up in your body, toxins are released into your bloodstream, causing sickness and disease.
Cleaning out one’s bowels daily removes all toxins and increases the healthy state of the blood.
Need help pooping every day? No problem! Here are my family’s favorite recommendations:
A. The old adage “an apple a day keeps the doctor away” really is true! Grab an apple and eat it whole, slice it up and sprinkle cinnamon on it, or bake it in a family-friendly recipe. Either way, an apple a day really does help to keep your bowels regular.
B. Magnesium: Our family could not live without magnesium.
Besides the more obvious benefits of this vital mineral (anti-inflammatory, fights depression, can lower blood pressure, reduces insulin resistance, prevents migraines, improves PMS symptoms 1), magnesium can quickly normalize bowel movements should constipation set in.
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C. Drink a lot of water.
Water gets rid of wastes through urination, perspiration and bowel movements 2.
The amount of water one should drink daily differs for each person, depending on one’s level of activity, but 1/2 to 1 oz of water per pound of body weight is typically sufficient.
Your fluid intake is probably adequate if your urine is colorless or light yellow and you rarely feel thirsty.
Try paying attention to the pooping habits of your family members and discover for yourself how pooping daily is directly associated with good health!
#3) What sounds good for dinner?
Allow your child to have some input on what you make for dinner and they will be much more likely to eat it. Plus, it gives them something yummy to look forward to at the end of the day.
Just today, my son asked if we could have grilled cheese sandwiches to go along with the soup that was cooking in the crockpot. I was happy to oblige, knowing that if I permitted him to have something he was really craving (a grilled cheese sandwich), he would be more likely to eat his less favorite foods that were served with the same meal (salad, sprouts, vegetable juice). For me, the key is balance–a little comfort food mixed in with a lot of life-giving food.
Food naturally provides feelings of security and comfort. Talking briefly about dinner plans reassures your child that they will have the food they need for the day.
Ensure that your time around the dinner table is a positive experience for all involved.
Make positive memories with food as you connect with one another around the table.
#4) What did you learn today?
Children will benefit from learning at an early age that they are ultimately responsible for their own learning, that learning can and should happen on a daily basis for a lifetime, and that learning is fun!
One way to encourage your child to educate themselves is to ask them on a daily basis what they learned that day. It could be something they learned at school, something they read, or something they heard. Really, the possibilities for learning are endless!
Get your child excited about learning and they will have something to look forward to every day of their life!
#5) Do you know how much I love you?
Express your love to your child daily, not just through actions, but in words.
Tell them you love them.
Ask them if they know how much you love them? What is their response?
Does saying “I love you” make you feel uncomfortable? Say it anyway!
Does hearing the words “I love you” seem to make your children feel uncomfortable?
Say the words anyway.
Everyone deserves to be told daily that they are loved.
Say the words “I love you”, then prove your love through your actions.
#6) Is there anything you want to talk about?
There are a million reasons why I ask my children this question on a daily basis. Here are the first two:
First, children and teens often need someone to talk to, and it’s not always easy to ask for a listening ear. Save them the work by asking first!
Second, shame has a way of sneaking its way into the lives of our children, and the only way to prevent that shame, or get rid of it if it has already made itself at home, is to bring it into the light by talking about it.
“Did you see or hear anything today that made you feel bad?” is a regular question in our home.
“Are you feeling sad for any reason?”
“Is there anything else you want to talk about?”
These are just a few examples of questions I ask my children each day, questions that will encourage them to open up as needed.
If your child does choose to talk, be prepared to stop what you’re doing, go to a quiet place, and give them your full attention.
Earn their trust and they will open up to you on a regular basis.
Be their safe place to fall in good times and bad.
You will never regret it.
A bonus question that I plan to start asking my children on a daily basis, beginning today, is:
#7) When today did you feel the Spirit?
The Spirit of God has many roles and, if we’re not careful, we’ll miss the opportunity for this daily interaction.
The Spirit warns, teaches, testifies, sanctifies, comforts, guides, strengthens, inspires, and brings peace.
Share with your children examples of how you felt the influence of the Spirit in your life that day, then ask them if they felt His influence.
Doing so will help increase your child’s awareness of the Spirit’s role in their everyday life, and nothing—NOTHING—is more important in this life than to have a close relationship with the Spirit.
Perhaps the six (soon-to-be seven) questions I ask my children on a daily basis will inspire you to create questions of your own.
QUESTION: What do your children need right now in their life, and how might your daily questions point them in the right direction?